Mediation is a voluntary way of resolving disputes within a family that is practical, affordable and confidential. In mediation the goal is for both parents, with the help of a neutral family mediator, to try to resolve their differences and negotiate parenting arrangements for their children without going to court.
As a neutral mediator, we don’t make decisions and we don’t force you or your co-parent to agree on anything. We do, however, try and help each of you to speak to each other about important parenting matters in a way that each of you can understand the other’s perspective
and position. The goal is to help you both compromise and come to an agreement. If and when there is agreement on the parenting issues that you have selected to work on, we will put the agreements in writing in what is referred to as a Parenting Plan.
We conduct “closed” Parenting Mediation “without prejudice” which means that everything said during the mediation, subject to certain limited exceptions (which is explained to both parents at the beginning of the process), will remain confidential. Neither parent nor the mediator will give evidence in a legal proceeding about what was said during mediation; only the terms of any agreement may be disclosed.
While mediation is an effective alternative in the negotiating the transition from parents to co-parents, it is not always the best option, nor is it suitable for all parents in the process of
Parenting Mediation is best when...
Both parents are willing and in agreement about trying mediation inorder to resolve important parenting matters.
Both parents are empowered to articulate his or her own position and the reasons behind those positions.
Both parents are able to tolerate a balanced process based on the principles of self-determination, safety, voluntary participation as well as mediator neutrality and impartiality.
Parenting Mediation is not appropiate when...
There is no mutual commitment to resolving parenting matters.
There are extremely high levels of conflict and no apparent desire to resolve matter without an imposed solution.
One party is rigid, domineering, abusive, overpowering, threatening.
When the mediator believes one or both of the parents are "ungovernable"... meaning they will not comply with agreements made.